All of Life's Other Curve Balls

I will be updating this page throughout my journey about all of the other curve balls that happened over the past year. Some would say 'I just can't believe it. It sounds like a mini-series on LMN!"

October 9, 2023 - The Latest

When I started this section of my blog I really thought it was a story to tell, from my perspective as a worried mother. It defiantly had a dramatic impact on my life, but not compared to the impact it has had on my daughter. This is HER story to tell! Hopefully one day she can so she can help other women of DM. My therapist told me that she not only has she suffered from Domestic Violence but something much more devastating, Battered Woman Syndrome. The brutality of it all is so awful and heart wrenching. How does someone do this to another human being???? All I can think, it's the DEVIL. Well NO MORE. "Not today satan, not today!

By the pure grace of God my daughter is not around this individual any longer. She has reconnected with her family and she is picking her life up, piece by piece. She is involved in a wonderful church and was baptized a few months ago (which her family attended). She is thriving at her career and started on-line college classes to get her Bachelor's degree. GOD is great!

The abuser is exactly where they belong. PRISON! AMEN! Until 2027.

If you or someone you know is experiencing DM or BWS please don't be afraid to seek help. Reach out to your friend, family member, local police department, hospital/doctor..... there is a light at the end of that dark tunnel.

May 5, 2022 - Where to Begin

I've been struggling on where to begin this whole thing. EVERYONE has "Curve Balls" in there life, but I have found myself this past year asking "Why can't I catch a break?" "Can't I just have a period of time where 'NOTHING' is happening?" "What lesson(s) is GOD teaching me? If it's about patience, I stopped praying for that a while ago ;). Don't get me wrong, God has blessed me with soooo much and I am eternally grateful for his blessings. I have wonderful parents and brother, two beautiful daughters, a wonderful husband (#2) and his 6 children and his 2 grandkids. I wish I could say "and she lives happily ever-after" (don't we all). There have been many crushing moments throughout my life but 2021 was a doozy.

May 11, 2022 - The Timeline

Here's the timeline of some of the major pivotal moments in my life (which will feed into all my "little curve balls" story)

December 19, 1991 - Gave birth to my first daughter (D1) at the age of 17. Baby Daddy 1 (BD1) was present for the birth and then was not for the next 17 years of her life. D1 wanted to find her father her senior year of high school, so we did.

December 29, 1995 - Married at the age of 21 to a man (BD2) I met at church (eye roll). Prior to getting married, D1 intentionally threw-up her dinner in his car because she did not want to go with us and she did not care for him that much. I should have made note of that immediately.

September 4, 1991 - Gave birth to my second daughter (D2).

1992 - 2013 - Ups and Downs of a "fake" marriage. Pretending that we were the perfect Christian family to our friends, family and church, while verbal and physical abuse became to be the norm through-out the years.

July 13, 2013 - Filed for divorce

March 7, 2014 - Divorce finalized

2014 - 2021 - D2 went off to college. D1 received Medical Admin Assistance certificate. D2 told me lots of awful stories about what would happen when I would travel for work when I was still married to BD2. D1 was having extreme ups & down emotionally and was involved in some very toxic relationships.

March 2021 - January 2022 - D1 entered into the most horrific relationship (I'll refer to this individual as HR throughout my blog) I have ever seen. Verbal abuse, beatings, hospital visits, broken bones, scars, arrests and the list goes on.

August 21, 2021 - I remarried. D1 did not attend.

November 2021 - Relocated D1 to different state to escape HR

December 2021 - D1 estranged herself from our family.

March 2022 - HR Convicted! Found Guilty!

March 28, 2022 - I have breast cancer.

April 2022 - HR released from jail, 2 years probation!!!!!

You really don't know how messed up our court/justice system is until you have to deal with them. It definitely does not protect the victims. It should not be rocket science to figure it out, but here we are!!! The injustice is unreal. That's all I have to say about that today but the story is forth coming!!!!! You just can't make this !@#$ up.